I showed this article to my sweety and she said “Where was that holy roller lady’s help for US when we were trying to have a baby? Oh yeah, we’re gay and using IVF so we’re going to hell and wouldn’t be worthy of anything from her but scorn and abuse too.”
Yeah, don’t talk to a good Unitarian Universalist girl about fundamentalists. =)
This lady is brilliant. She makes me proud to be a woman. I love these positive, sensible conversations about abortion. I have my own abortion story here, please feel free to read and pass along. I was recently informed that my blog post helped someone to decide to definitely go for an abortion and that it was the right decision, I am so glad. That was exactly why I wrote it - to try to combat the plethora of negative/sad/dramatic/woe/cautionary tales of abortion. It’s not always bad or sad and it doesn’t have to be.
Seriously, I don’t understand how the OP can NOT understand that people are going to be fucking bitter and angry and dismissive and suspicious of white people. What planet are you living on? And what exactly do you mean by ‘same shit’? Do you mean when POC react against white people/institutions? Do you mean when POC say “I hate white people”? How do you think YOU would feel if you and your people had been oppressed for hundreds of years??? What the fuck do you expect, everyone to just smile and make the best of things and ignore the swathes of shit they have to deal with every day? Get a clue, maddingcrowds. Think before you speak. Really, have a good old think for a loooong time.
If you step on my foot, you need to get off my foot.
If you step on my foot without meaning to, you need to get off my foot.
If you step on my foot without realizing it, you need to get off my foot.
If everyone in your culture steps on feet, your culture is horrible, and you need to get off my foot.
If you have foot-stepping disease, and it makes you unaware you’re stepping on feet, you need to get off my foot. If an event has rules designed to keep people from stepping on feet, you need to follow them. If you think that even with the rules, you won’t be able to avoid stepping on people’s feet, absent yourself from the event until you work something out.
If you’re a serial foot-stepper, and you feel you’re entitled to step on people’s feet because you’re just that awesome and they’re not really people anyway, you’re a bad person and you don’t get to use any of those excuses, limited as they are. And moreover, you need to get off my foot.
See, that’s why I don’t get the focus on classifying harassers and figuring out their motives. The victims are just as harassed either way.
It’s also applicable to other situations where someone claims their intentions were pure and they didn’t mean to do something sexist/racist/heterosexist/abelist, etc. Even if you did not mean to step on someone’s foot—you did.
“Forgive yourself for not being at peace. The moment you completely accept your non-peace, your non-peace is transmuted into peace. Anything you accept fully will get you there, will take you into peace. This is the miracle of surrender.”—Eckhart Tolle (via skeletongarden)
“‘…..this is not to say that every single white American consciously oppresses black people. He does not need to. Institutional racism has been maintained deliberately by the power structure and through indifference, inertia and lack of courage on the part of white masses as well as petty officials.’”—
Stokely Carmichael & Charles V. Hamilton.
Excerpt from ‘Black Power : The Politics of Liberation in America’
Male privilege is being able to wear whatever you want on the street and not being told to “cover up” because it makes the opposite sex uncomfortable and aroused at inconvenient time. MAAB’s, your penis is not my problem. It is yours. If you can’t control…
I completely 100% accept that we white western feminists know fuck-all when it comes to intersectionality, and I am striving every day to not make mistakes when it comes to my perception of equality, liberation, freedom, feminism, etc. But I do know very little, which is why I need to ask in what other way should aboutmaleprivilege have framed this? I recognise that what is written here is failing to acknowledge the desire and freedom and rightness (for want of a better word, sorry) of other women to cover up/dress exactly as they please. But this post is about being free to dress skimpily, in short shorts, baring flesh, without being seen as all the things that is seen as. What is a better way to say ‘let me dress however the hell I like - whether it be almost naked or covered from head to toe - without it becoming a value judgement’?
Having just written that last line I’m wondering if I’ve just answered my own question.
I try to pick her up. She knocks my hand away. “You can get out of here if you want to,” she screams. “You just don’t want to.”
“No, i can’t,” i say, weakly.
“Yes you can.” she accuses. “You just don’t want to.”
I look helplessly at my mother. Her face is choked with pain. “Tell her to try to open the bars,” she says in a whisper.
“I can’t open the door,” i tell my daughter. “I can’t get through the bars. You try and open the bars.”
My daughter goes over to the barred door that leads to the visiting room. She pulls and she pushes. She yanks and she hits and she kicks the bars until she falls on the floor, a heap of exhaustion. I go over and pick her up. I hold and rock and kiss her. There is a look of resignation on her face that i can’t stand.
When the guard says the visit is over, i cling to her for dear life. She holds her head high, and her back as straight as she walks out of the prison. She waves good-bye to me, her face clouded and worried, looking like a little adult.
I go back to my cage and cry until i vomit. I decide that it is time to leave.
Assata Shakur, Assata: An Autobiography
Mainstream white feminist movement, those of you who fight for equal pay with your white male counterparts, those of you who are colorblind, those of you who will go to the ends of the earth to fight for Laci Green and against rape jokes.
Where is your support for women in prison? For female political prisoners? For your sisters behind bars, born behind bars, funneled into a pipeline from school to prison, where are your posts? Where are your signs? Why are these spaces only occupied by poor women and women of color? Where are your books and articles?
“Where, for example, did the term Caucasian come from? Although many take it to be ‘real’ and don’t think about its racist connotations, the term has racist origins. It was developed in the late eighteenth century by a German anthropologist, Johann Blumenbach. He developed a racial classification scheme that put people from the Russian Caucasus at the top of the racial hierarchy because he thought that Caucasians were the most beautiful and sophisticated people; darker people were put on the bottom of the list: Asians, Africans, Polynesians, and Native Americans (Hannaford 1996). It is amazing when you think about it that this term remains with us, with few questioning its racist origin and connotations.”—
Margaret L. Andersen and Patricia Hill Collins, “Systems of Power and Inequality” (via wretchedoftheearth)
The more I learn about racism and sexism, the less able I am to just sit back and enjoy stuff. I can’t enjoy Firefly like I used to, I can’t enjoy The Newsroom like my fiancé does, I can’t laugh at Community like I want to, I’ve avoided Girls because of all the negative feminist commentary but I know it’ll make me laugh if I watch it. Game of Thrones is one of my favourite things on tv but it is RIDICULOUS for the levels of sexism and the whitewashing inherent in it.
Where is the mainstream stuff that doesn’t stumble into sexist and/or racist tropes? Where is the mainstream stuff that has people TRYING to avoid sexist/racist tropes? It’s also no coincidence that all this stuff is American - you guys have the largest resources, some of the greatest minds, the most loudly heard commentary on racism and sexism and yet you still can’t get true equality on the air. I’m not saying this like the rest of the world is any better - I know of very very VERY few instances of equality in British tv and film. I’m just saying…why hasn’t this happened yet? Why isn’t this happening NOW???? How long will I be watching film and tv and finding 99.999% of it problematic? I’m still going to watch GoT, I’m still going to love Firefly forever…but they are tarnished. We can do better than this. We have the minds, we have the knowledge, we have the resources. Who’s in charge and why aren’t they listening?
“What if all women were bigger and stronger than you? And thought they were smarter? What if women were the ones who started wars? What if too many of your friends had been raped by women wielding giant dildos and no K-Y Jelly? What if the state trooper who pulled you over on the New Jersey Turnpike was a woman and carried a gun? What if the ability to menstruate was the prerequisite for most high-paying jobs? What if your attractiveness to women depended on the size of your penis? What if every time women saw you they’d hoot and make jerking motions with their hands? What if women were always making jokes about how ugly penises are and how bad sperm tastes? What if you had to explain what’s wrong with your car to big sweaty women with greasy hands who stared at your crotch in a garage where you are surrounded by posters of naked men with hard-ons? What if men’s magazines featured cover photos of 14-year-old boys with socks tucked into the front of their jeans and articles like: “How to tell if your wife is unfaithful” or “What your doctor won’t tell you about your prostate” or “The truth about impotence”? What if the doctor who examined your prostate was a woman and called you “Honey”? What if you had to inhale your boss’ stale cigar breath as she insisted that sleeping with her was part of the job? What if you couldn’t get away because the company dress code required you wear shoes designed to keep you from running? And what if after all that women still wanted you to love them?”—For the Men Who Still Don’t Get It, Carol Diehl. (via theseasonofthewitch)
“Black history is taught like this: you started off as a slave, then white people felt bad and decided to free you, then civil rights legislation made you equal, and finally you achieved victory with Obama’s election. The end…. Of course, that is ridiculous. That is the White Supremacist version of black history. The end result of this mis-education is that black children are separated from their own people’s legacy and historical achievements.
Everybody in the world has the right to draw inspiration from their own people’s legacy, and this right is robbed from black children because their history is actively hidden, distorted, and replaced with make-believe.