The internet is awash with pro-choice/pro-life and contraceptive arguments at the moment because of the plethora of Republican candidate idiocy rampaging in the US. It’s actually starting to do my head in a bit because it’s not something I need to get riled up about seeing as I come from and now live in some of the most liberal countries on the planet.
But I just have to say one thing:
People are justifying abortion and contraceptives by saying “abortion saves lives, contraceptive treat medical problems” etc. This is of course valid and right and true and I don’t mean to knock this argument. However WE DON’T NEED TO JUSTIFY ABORTION. WE DON’T NEED TO JUSTIFY CONTRACEPTIVES.
The closer I get to feeling ready to have a kid, the closer I get to wanting to try for a baby, the more sure I am that we desperately need to live in a world where abortion is accessible. The place I am in now, psychologically, and my current life situation is SO right and ripe for having a child. The place I was in when I was 19, and my current life situation, was so not right or ripe for having a child. Of course, maybe if I had wanted to proceed with that pregnancy my life would have turned out just fine but the point is I didn’t want a baby. I did not want a child at that point in time. And that is the ONLY reason you need to have for having an abortion. Not wanting a child, for whatever reason, is such a huge fucking fundamental thing that it should be the only box that needs to be ticked. What better reason do you need?! You wouldn’t place a baby or child in the care of someone that does not want that baby or child. It would be madness. You would be inflicting serious issues on both parties.
Abortion is necessary and there is no justification needed.
Similarly to this, we do not need to justify using contraceptives. We do not need to say “yes but some women take them for this/that/the other”. The main point of contraceptives is to enable people to have safe, pregnancy-free sex. We don’t need to shy away from that, we don’t need to beat around the bush. We want to have sex, and we want to choose whether or not that sex makes us pregnant. It is as simple as that, and that is okay.
Also today I am poorly and Ikea have fucked up the delivery of our purchases and I have had to be Shouty and Stern on the phone to the delivery man who has been fucking me about for two days. It worked though - appaaaaarently my stuff will be delivered in an hour.
Hah. I shall believe that when I see it.
So this is a bad day. I can’t decide how pissed off to be about losing my job - despite the fact I was given a contract until June, that contract was basically repeatedly saying ‘you have no rights whatsoever and we are under no obligations to fulfill this agreement but if YOU don’t fulfill it you’re in the wrong” - so I was always aware that things could easily go down the pan. The company are shitty but I met some truly awesome people and I’m sad that we will no longer get to have fun together on a daily basis.
It was so nice having something to keep me busy and having my own money to spend. It is amazingly hard to find work here if you only speak English and my Dutch isn’t good enough yet. I start a part-time teaching job in a few weeks which would actually be the most perfectest thing in the world if the hours increased so I’m crossing my fingers for that.
I’m supposed to go to Dutch class tonight but fuck. I don’t wanna. I am sick in my throat and chest and I feel gross and sulky and cross.